May 5, 2009
Thank you author and speaker Lisa Frederiksen of Breaking the Cycles for this regular series sharing her decades long experience of dealing with family alcoholism and alcohol abuse. Click here to see the rest of the series. 
by Lisa Frederiksen
Time and again, you hear students and adults say something like, “It’s normal. All kids drink.” And, often, researchers (myself included) focus on how many young people are drinking. The 2002 to 2006 National Surveys on Drug Use and Health, for example, found that in 2006 almost one in five people aged 12 – 20 engaged in binge drinking (consuming five or more drinks on at least one occasion) in the past month and almost half had used alcohol in the past year. [Source: http://oas.samhsa.gov/underage2k8/Ch2.htm#2.1]
Similarly, most adults and students believe that all adults drink alcohol.
Often it is these perceptions that leave adults and young people believing they should drink or be able to control their drinking in order to successfully drink because everybody drinks. But, the perceptions and the realities do not line up.
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December 14, 2007
The names, places, and circumstances may vary, but you can be rest assured that most alcoholics and addicts follow a very predictable path. The same rationalizations, secrecy, prevarications and red herrings are used by gutter drunks to Boston bluebloods as if they were all using the same playbook; let’s call it the alcoholic playbook.
The latest news on Amy Winehouse shows that she is about to execute a play that is the bread and butter of those that have faced the fact that they have an addiction, but have either not suffered enough pain or haven’t honestly decided to lead the life of sober recovery. Amy is calling it a festive binge; I call it “the last hurrah”.
Amy Winehouse Plans Massive Christmas Blow-Out Before Heading to Rehab
Amy Winehouse to Have Festive Binge Before Rehab in the New Year
This play is used essentially as a guilt avoidance maneuver designed to accomplish two ends. It fends off those pestering for treatment by setting a future date of commitment and allows the addict/alcoholic the freedom to “enjoy” their last embrace with their beloved drugs. Unfortunately that’s the problem… they still love their substance of choice and the lifestyle in which their disease flourishes. Rehab may still be in the cards, but going to rehab without desiring recovery is pointless.
If I had to make a guess at what stage in the addiction game this play is usually executed I would say just before or after halftime. There is still plenty of time left in the game to score a full recovery, but as with all addictions the game could always be called on the account of jail or death.
Good luck Amy, you’re going to need it because in this game they play for keeps.
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