Answer: One crosses the border into alcoholism when alcohol becomes priority number one. It starts off as just fun, party here, ballgame there. Then it becomes a dating tool or a coping mechanism. Finally it’s having beer instead of morning coffee… lunch break, and midnight snack- you’ve arrived a citizen of Alkistan. Alcohol becomes ingrained into every aspect of life and so it’s no wonder that trying to live sober seems impossible. It’s just hard to imagine life without old faithful. That’s why so many people, especially in early recovery, turn to non-alcoholic beer as a solution. Wrong answer, near-beer is just a link to the past, a wubby sans alcohol.
The right answer is to set non-alcoholic goals. Recovery opens up new opportunities without alcohol as a priority so shoot for simple goals but in a sober world; TDA’s simplified cognitive behavioral training, learning to experience and reacting to a sober environment. Retraining one’s brain and decision making process is absolutely necessary or it’s back to the same old people, places, and things… and relapse. Break the mold even if it doesn’t feel right- the positive results of sober decisions will soon begin to reinforce this behavior and no longer will you feel as if in a foreign land.