Forget the Wubby, Try Non-Alcoholic Goals

by The Discovering Alcoholic on August 23, 2010

Question: Why is goal setting so important in recovery?

Answer: One crosses the border into alcoholism when alcohol becomes priority number one. It starts off as just fun, party here, ballgame there. Then it becomes a dating tool or a coping mechanism. Finally it’s having beer instead of morning coffee… lunch break, and midnight snack- you’ve arrived a citizen of Alkistan. Alcohol becomes ingrained into every aspect of life and so it’s no wonder that trying to live sober seems impossible. It’s just hard to imagine life without old faithful. That’s why so many people, especially in early recovery, turn to non-alcoholic beer as a solution. Wrong answer, near-beer is just a link to the past, a wubby sans alcohol.

The right answer is to set non-alcoholic goals. Recovery opens up new opportunities without alcohol as a priority so shoot for simple goals but in a sober world; TDA’s simplified cognitive behavioral training, learning to experience and reacting to a sober environment. Retraining one’s brain and decision making process is absolutely necessary or it’s back to the same old people, places, and things… and relapse. Break the mold even if it doesn’t feel right- the positive results of sober decisions will soon begin to reinforce this behavior and no longer will you feel as if in a foreign land.

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1 Drew August 24, 2010 at 7:28 am

It has been a shock to me that I have to relearn to NOT choose alcohol in different situations. I think in the past I thought I just had to make ONE decision to stay sober- when in reality it is a million decisions. It really is breaking that mold of asking for a non alcoholic beverage when you are having breakfast, eating lunch, out for dinner, at a ballgame, or just sitting around the house. But the first time you do it- you realize it really wasn’t that painful to go without.

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2 Paul August 24, 2010 at 12:27 am

Nice post. Achieving goals has been a hugely important part of my recovery. I’ve managed to accomplish some amazing things so far; the sort of stuff that I dreamed about as a kid. I was able to have a book published (well actually two) and went on tour with TV appearances and all that sort of thing; I now work as a full-time writer. I got married early in recovery and a year later my son was born – my greatest gift in recovery. I’m now achieving another of my childhood dreams by learning Muay Thai in Thailand even though I’m in my forties. I’m not talking about my accomplishments to boast. I just want to let people know that not only can we achieve our childhood goals in recovery but we almost have a duty to do this. In my twenties I ended up on the streets and was insane because of my drinking; my life today could not be more different.

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