The nuts and bolts of recovery, where the rubber meets the road, hardcore recovery, etc.

Bye, Bye, Love & 42 Pounds of Poison

February 6, 2016

Goodbye Happiness.  When the best case scenario is numb feet and the worst case is losing your kids. One of the most interesting and harrowing documentaries on the dangers of abusing alcohol.  Brought to you by the BBC. FYI – 3 stones equal 41.96 lbs.

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Sober Toolbox Additions

December 28, 2015

It’s fun to go back in time.  The best from the past without any fluff.  All these posts are from the spring of 2009. Substance Abuse Fight: Dinosaurs, Airplanes, and the Vestigial Ashtray – where are we in this fight. The TDA Abbreviated 12 Step Program for the Spiritually Challenged – just what it sounds like. Science or Selling […]

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The Ultimate Party Host Challenge

December 8, 2015

Great article from The Cut about how to entertain party guests without alcohol – just in time for all the holiday parties in season for the next few weeks. From The Ultimate Hostess Challenge: Entertaining People Who Don’t Drink, By Jamie Lauren Keiles :   We non-drinkers are legion, and we come from all walks […]

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TDA Halloween Challenge

October 31, 2015

This creepy 35 second Hanna Barbera anti-drug PSA has the best catchphrase ever at the end. Happy Halloween!!!

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Sober Toolbox Additions

April 27, 2015

Sober Toolbox Additions are where we revisit posts from the past that were more focused on the nuts and bolts of recovery, or something you should not have missed just because your new here, and re-post them in our new Sober Toolbox tab. All these posts are from the spring of 2009. This month’s toolbox is […]

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The Return of The Toolbox

March 12, 2015

As promised some time ago, we are bringing back the Sober Toolbox feature. Sober Toolbox Additions are where we revisit posts from the past that were more focused on the nuts and bolts of recovery, or something you should not have missed just because your new here, and re-post them in our new Sober Toolbox […]

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Sober Toolbox Additions

April 19, 2014

Sober Toolbox Additions are where we revisit posts from the past that were more focused on the nuts and bolts of recovery, or something you should not have missed just because your new here, and re-post them in our new Sober Toolbox tab. All these posts are from the beginning of 2009. Over five years […]

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Sober Toolbox Additions

October 8, 2013

Sober Toolbox Additions are where we revisit posts from the past that were more focused on the nuts and bolts of recovery, or something you should not have missed just because your new here, and re-post them in our new Sober Toolbox tab.  All these posts are from October & November of 2008. This month’s Toolbox […]

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Sober Toolbox Additions

March 3, 2013

Sober Toolbox Additions are where we revisit posts from the past that were more focused on the nuts and bolts of recovery or something that was meaningful and re-post them in our new Sober Toolbox tab. These posts are from the spring of 2008. This months toolbox is Tool Kit #1.  Currently residing at the Smithsonian […]

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Sober Toolbox Additions

September 13, 2012

Sober Toolbox Additions are where we revisit posts from the past that were more focused on the nuts and bolts of recovery and re-post them in our new Sober Toolbox tab.  These posts are from the winter of 2008.  This month’s toolbox pic belongs to Adam Savage of the Myth Busters.  I imagine like ours, it’s filled […]

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Toolbox Addition – Tapping Your Way Through A Craving (or Relapse)

July 21, 2012

I have been doing some reading up on another “out there” recovery tool. I’ved tried it, although not “in the trenches” of an active relapse. So far experimenting on self stress and fatigue, I’ve had some positive results.

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Sober Toolbox Additions

July 9, 2012

It’s that time of the month again.  This batch of greatest hits includes several reviews on books about sobriety.  Sober Toolbox Additions are where we revisit posts from the past that were more focused on the nuts and bolts of recovery and re-post them in our new Sober Toolbox tab.  This month’s pictured toolbox is […]

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Sober Tools #1 – Tools Sober

January 3, 2012

To start the new year off we are introducing a new feature to the site, one that begins today and will morph throughout the year into a helpful collection of  tips on how to get and stay sober.  We have always posted things that we are adding to our personal toolboxes of recovery, but have not done a good job of […]

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What I Hate about Recovery Blogs

March 2, 2009

A Room of Mama’s Own at The Discovering Alcoholic

I want to thank my guest blogger MPJ from A Room of Mama’s Own for helping me out while I’m in Japan. She delivered this blog at the most opportune time possible, and in my next post I explain just how grateful I am. Thanks MPJ!

When The Discovering Alcoholic asked me to write a guest post about
what I hate about recovery blogs, I was stumped. After all, I love
blogging about recovery and I love reading recovery blogs.

My husband is a sex addict, and when I started blogging nearly two
years ago, I couldn’t find many people writing about sex addiction
codependency. I (with some typical negative self-talk) thought, “I
won’t fit in here. I won’t be able to relate to blogs about
codependency and addiction around alcohol and drugs, and those
bloggers won’t think sex addiction is a ‘real’ addiction, like the
ones they have to deal with. They’ll think my husband is just a jerk,
and addiction is just an excuse, and his recovery and mine are a
joke.”

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What Doesn’t Help

February 27, 2009

Original Pic by Miro-Foto now at The Discovering Alcoholic

I want to thank my guest blogger Elizabeth at HopeMaybe for helping me out while I’m in Japan and providing this insightful look into the way alcoholism affects the entire family. Sometimes even the best of intentions may be less than helpful and often cause resentment. Not unlike throwing water on a grease fire, uninformed/unwanted help can be fuel for the flames.

Even today, two years since I left my alcoholic, I still explain that
I was married to an alcoholic but HE WASN’T AN ALCOHOLIC WHEN I MET
HIM.

So much of the advice you find on the internet and in Al Anon
literature is hurtful to a person dealing with a relationship with an
alcoholic. (I need to caveat that by saying that I found the support
groups in Al Anon wonderful and life-saving). While searching for
help, I read material that said that not only did my spouse have a
disease, but that I also have a disease called co-dependency. That I
was probably born this way. I care too much about other people and do
too much for them. That’s why I married someone who became an
alcoholic. His alcoholism was always there and that is why I chose him
to marry. He was someone I could latch onto and support. He was needy
and I needed to be needed.

Even today, two years since I left my alcoholic, I still explain that
I was married to an alcoholic but HE WASN’T AN ALCOHOLIC WHEN I MET
HIM. This is truly said with all capital letters. I always feel the
necessity of making it perfectly clear that I am normal and just got
caught up in a downward spiral when he started drinking. Why do I feel
I still have to defend myself? It is mostly because our culture looks
disparagingly upon those of us who are caught up in alcoholism. We are
somehow weak, and big suckers to choose an alcoholic.

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