• Step 1 – Admitted we were powerless over our addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable
• Step 2 – Admitted, said out loud, and meant, to ourselves and to many others our nature and the warped reality of our existence
• Step 3 – Decided to act upon this predicament and stay sober at all costs, getting professional help when necessary
• Step 4 – Made a deeply introspective list of all things stressful, worrisome, embarrassing, or pending that required action so that recovery becomes a priority
• Step 5 – Made daily and measurable progress on correcting items on this list, also identifying those items which were honestly beyond our power to change
• Step 6 – Reflect, refine, and repeat
Do I have a problem with the 12 Steps? Absolutely not. Did I have a problem with the 12 Steps? You betcha! While still drinking and in even in early recovery I concentrated on the reasons why the steps would not work for me, the religious aspect, the spiritual aspect, and the many logic traps I spent hours/days creating. I still worked all the steps diligently, yet deep in my heart lacked faith in many of the steps.
Over time it has become obvious to me that the 12 Steps have two purposes, one is to help people quit drinking and the other is to learn again how to live without drinking. The latter can not happen before the first, and I think this is the cause of many abandoning their program in frustration.
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