Alcoholism: Drinking Alone is not a Sure Sign

by The Discovering Alcoholic on September 23, 2010

Requested from the 07 archives.

They say one of the surest signs of alcoholism is drinking alone. No doubt this can be a sign of problem drinking, yet you have many people that do most of their drinking alone but are considered safe, “normal” drinkers.

So what’s the difference?

Well it’s not so much the drinking alone that’s the real problem here; it’s why the alcoholic will drink alone. Shame, embarrassment, and secrecy are all contributing factors but the overwhelming reason an alcoholic will isolate their self from others is their inability to face reality. Total dependence upon alcohol means that all things in life are now derived from drinking. Joy, sadness, courage… everything comes from the bottle until the very substance that provides life takes away the ability to live it.

At least for me, the facade of normalcy was no longer possible when the bartender asked if I needed help or when a convenience store clerk commented on the way my hand shook or how it was awful early for a beer. Even associating with other drunks, those considerate of our common plight became too painful a reminder of my sad state. Any contact with the real world made me painfully aware that I was no longer the master of my own destiny, and the very substance that gave me the strength to face the day also insured I would too debilitated to follow through.

It wasn’t the drinking alone that was the problem, it was why I was drinking alone.


{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

1 grant October 24, 2014 at 6:36 am

AA is not a cult and helps many people. I do feel at certain levels and especially isolated meetings it can have a cult like feel to it!


2 Ben Meyer October 5, 2014 at 10:53 pm

Way back when I was 15 I went to rehab which I found out is fed off lies and false facts after going. I went for my very little alcohol consumption (which they automatically declared me an alcoholic because i drank alone sometimes) and “marijuana addiction”.While rehab encouraged cigarette use they said that if you start from an early age, you get addicted to alcohol and marijuana blah blah blah. It turned out I didn’t get addicted to alcohol or marijuana and drink about 4 times a year,but what I did get addicted to is the cigarettes, yes much better. Rehab is a bunch of lunatics who want money and I was the only one there who only smoked weed and drank, everyone else were heroin addicts and thought it was a joke when they were dealing with way bigger problems. Oh I’ve never done heroin or any hard drugs, scratch that idea too that alcohol is a gateway drug.


3 Ben Meyer October 5, 2014 at 11:01 pm

They also claimed acid stayed in your spine and made up a false explanation for it which I researched and it was an old folklore with no evidence whatsoever. They also claimed weed had killed people(again no evidence at all). Most of the people in charge who were “former addicts” sounded like they talked out their ass and they constantly changed their drug addiction stories,like changing from I only drank alcohol to I did hard drugs and most of them I could have swore I’ve heard from a movie before. It amazed me how cigarettes are the most dangerous of all drugs and they encouraged its use and discouraged other ones.


4 Mitchell October 18, 2010 at 12:34 pm

No, AA is not a cult. They just ask you to admit you’re powerless. They then ask you to believe in a higher power and then submit to that higher power. But it has nothing to do with religion. hmm….


5 Zentient September 24, 2010 at 8:43 am

horselover, this is an old argument for eschewing AA, “I am not powerless”. You are right that no one is inherently powerless. However, you give away all your power when you take the first drink. After you take the first hit, the first drink, the first whatever, you have willingly turned yourself over to the drug, and you are indeed powerless over alcohol (or other doc). Powerless is brought into the moment you grab the drug and take it. So, in my opinion, the first step of the 12 steps is quite accurate and goes to the core of addiction.


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